Building connections: Tips for digital PenPals on Lettre.app

In the age of instant messaging and social media, the concept of pen pals might seem like a relic from a bygone era. But, as many are discovering, the joy of slow communication through letters is far from obsolete—it's simply evolved. 

Lettre is proud to announce that a complete range of PenPals feature is soon going to be live on the app, allowing users to find and connect with digital pen pals from all over the world. Costing only a single stamp and featuring same day delivery with Lettre’s trusted delivery pigeon Pippin, the PenPals feature attempts to bring together the charm of traditional letter writing with the convenience of modern technology. 

Having a pen pal can be an enriching experience that exposes you to new cultures, languages, worldviews and has the potential to connect you to a new lifelong friend in another part of the world. Here’s how you can choose the right digital pen pals and maintain those connections effectively.

Choosing the right PenPals

Shared interests

Start by looking for pen pals who share your interests. Whether it's books, movies, gardening, or technology, having common ground can make your letters more engaging and give you plenty to talk about. While Lettre’s PenPals matching algorithms are continuously being developed, right now the app will send your lettre to a user in another continent of your choice – this means the onus is on you as a sender to make your interests known to the recipient.

Diverse backgrounds

One of the most exciting aspects of having a pen pal is the opportunity to learn about different cultures and lifestyles. Consider reaching out to people from countries or backgrounds that intrigue you. This diversity can add depth to your conversations and broaden your worldview. Ask questions, let them know tidbits about your own culture or background, and make sure you send the PenPal lettre to a continent you might not have visited before or know little about. Lettre’s handwritten format means you can also learn a new language or script just by writing lettres, so ask your recipient to write something in their own language or script!

Similar communication styles

Pay attention to how potential PenPals might choose to express themselves. Do they prefer casual chats or more thoughtful, reflective writing? Matching your communication style to a lettre you’ve received can lead to more satisfying exchanges and a stronger connection. So keep that in mind when replying to a PenPal lettre you might have received, and incorporate the different styles in PenPal lettres that you yourself write. 

Keeping your PenPals engaged

Consistency is key

The foundation of any pen pal relationship is regular communication. Try to establish a rhythm that works for both of you, whether that’s writing weekly, biweekly, or monthly. Being consistent shows that you value the relationship and are committed to maintaining it.

Keep things interesting

While it's great to share everyday occurrences, also think outside the box to keep your letters engaging. Share a poem, sketch a small drawing, or include a digital photo of something meaningful from your week. Ask open-ended questions to encourage a deeper dialogue.

Be patient and personal

Remember that digital communication lacks the immediate feedback of face-to-face interactions. Be patient when waiting for replies, and give your pen pal the benefit of the doubt regarding tone and intent. When writing, be sincere and personal—share your thoughts and feelings, and show interest in their experiences and emotions.

Celebrate milestones

Just like any friendship, celebrating milestones can strengthen bonds. Wish your pen pal happy birthday, congratulate them on significant achievements, and acknowledge the anniversary of your pen pal friendship.

Address issues directly

If a misunderstanding arises, address it directly rather than letting it fester. Clear communication can prevent minor issues from turning into reasons for ending your correspondence.

Digital tools to enhance your experience

Leverage the tools provided by your digital platform to enhance your pen pal experience. Use stickers, digital stamps, or varying fonts to make each letter visually unique and exciting. Some apps also feature prompts or themes to inspire your next letter, keeping the creative juices flowing.

Having a digital PenPal can be a delightful and fulfilling way to connect with others across the globe. By choosing the right people and nurturing those connections on Lettre, you can build lasting friendships that bridge cultures and distance, all from your Apple iPad.